tattoo

I think I want a tattoo that says -

honesty, hope, faith, courage, integrity, willingness, humility, brotherly love, justice, perserverance, spiritual awareness, service.

i'm thinking of adding gratitude to the list...

what if reincarnation is true?

Recently I was at Darshan and (Swami) Jaya Devi was teaching about being compassionate to ourselves and others. After the meditation she was answering questions and this thought came to mind...

what if the addict is actually reincarnated to a higher level and the addiction is nothing more than unresolved pain from a previous life?

I'm going to try to process this thought…keep up with me if you can.

This idea hedges on several thoughts…what if… reincarnation is true?...the lower mind is the ego?...the higher mind is my connection with a higher power? What if when I finish with one life – when I've learned all I can in that life – at the end of that journey I had unresolved pain? And the unresolved pain I had from my last life was so close to the surface that when I was reborn my lower mind managed to get to my unresolved pain first…that pain manifested then in the form of addiction – drugs, alcohol, sex, money…and until I can let go of that pain – these addictions…I can't continue my journey. Now if I was on a higher plane I might have been able to get cleaner earlier but I reach that point when I my higher mind reachs the level of acceptance it requires to get clean. If all this is true, does it mean that now that I have gotten clean and come to the understanding about this "evolution" that I can continue on my journey? I mean, what if…?

wonder where?

I'm wondering tonight where he is…that guy who will be with me someday. I know there is one out there for me, because, well because I just believe. If I didn't believe he was out there somewhere making his way in my direction as I make my way toward him, it would be just too awful. I'm a romantic and so I need to believe that someone who is just right for me exists. I might have met him already and I might not. I don't care what he does for a living as long as he loves what he does. I don't care where he has been, but I want to know he wants to go in a direction that will make him feel good about himself. I want to hear him laugh at something silly. I want to talk about how a skyline inspires, or a neighborhood intrigues me and have him listen because he's interested. I want us to go on an adventure to nowhere to find out what's there and to see what we find along the way. I want to walk left as he goes right knowing all along that we'll meet back up in the middle. I want him to believe in something so much that he wants me to learn what it's about and I want him to want to learn about my beliefs. I want him to be patient, irreverent, political and silly. I want him to encourage me to dream and ask me about what I dream about. I want him to be able to sit contently with his own company as he is content to sit with mine. I want there to be his friends, my friends and our friends. I want to dance with him, watch a movie with him, and get nasty with him. I wonder what he's doing tonight…and if he's wondering where I am?

holiday distractions

My mind can go in so many directions…the holidays only complicate things for meJ. I use to live in chaos; it was where I was comfortable. My life today is much more organized. Don't misunderstand I like spontaneity…but it's easier for me to live within the confines of a schedule. I like things better that way overall. I prefer a job that is a Monday through Friday sorta thing. I like having a plan on what I might do on any given night. So on Thursday night I'm use to seeing a group of friends that I hang out with on most Thursday nights. This week however there was Thanksgiving so I missed seeing my regular group and did a holiday thing instead. I had a great time, but I still missed my friends. There is the rub for me during the next 4 or 5 weeks…there will be all sorts of festivities that are up for grabs and I have to make some sacrifices here and there as I have to make a decision to do one thing or another. Add into the mix the potential of meeting a couple of new guys to ask out for dinner...! It's great, on one hand, because it's been a long time since I even had choices to make…but it's hard too because spending time doing my "routine" is something that provides me with some mental/spiritual comfort. Growing up can be hard…lol. I wonder if other people think about some of the shit I do?

breathing

Breathing it would seem is more than just a means to live…it is the way to live. My teacher, my beloved (Swami) Jaya Devi, was teaching the other night. She spoke about when we learn to love ourselves…"when I get thin then I'll be happy", "when I get this job, then I'll be happy"…"when I get the love of my life, the car, that…whatever"…I've lived my whole life tying to find some external "thing" to make me happy.. It's what fueled my addiction, my search for something to make me happy… or rather to remove my pain! She has taught me that the giving to others will lead me to happiness. It won't give me happiness. That comes from inside. If I love myself I can be happy. Compassion, benevolence, humility and confidence, these characteristics will lead my way. And living in the moment is the key…how? Breathing! I asked Jaya Devi this question not long ago;

My question was this; how does one get back in the moment when the ego is fighting so hard to be the center of attention?

Breath by breath, with both will and surrender. You breathe in everything you feel and breathe it out again. On each breath you know that even in the middle of all the chaos and struggle, you are okay. You are loved and connected and you are okay. You don't even have to do anything to be okay, you just have to remember that you are, and the breath is the key to remembering.

When you grow, you must employ both compassion and awareness. Awareness of what is going on – my lower mind is kicking up a sandstorm of emotion – and compassion for everything you have lived through, even the current moment. Then you can look at yourself and your lower mind with the eyes of love and say, "even this is okay, I love and I am okay." The lower mind is like weather – it passes through and sometimes has great effect, but it is not permanent. Let it pass through you but don't be tricked into thinking it is who you are. Know that I love you, my sweet man.

thanks

Today is Thanksgiving and I ought to take a moment to write about how grateful I am for the gifts I have in my life. I am an incredibly fortunate man. I am in great physical health, have wonderful friends, loving family, a good education…I could go on for a good while. I don't want to write a gratitude list. And yet it is quite hard not to take a moment to show some gratitude for what I have received. Somehow at moments like this it's difficult not to believe in something…I'm not sure what name you might like, God, Krishna, Buddha, Allah, Aten, whether it's the God or Goddess…but for me it's impossible not to believe. For me there is some force that is far greater than me. How else could I still be here today drawing one breath after another? You might call it luck or you might say it's from putting one foot in front of the other. But there were lots of days when I couldn't tell which foot was which and days that my luck could have been called anything but luck and somehow I made it here... to today. For whatever reason, I've made it this far and I am convinced that without a little Divine intervention it would not have been possible. Am I grateful today? Yep.

true things

- I get up every morning at 6:15 am – except the mornings I stay in bed

- I had a thing for bois once but would NEVER date another!

- I love Cholua hot sauce above all others.

- I eat 3 peanut butter and jelly sandwiches almost every day unless I don't.

- I only watch movies when I watch TV so I don't really watch TV.

- I completely believe in Karma.