I'm more conscious recently of my potential to attract men. I can't say that I never noticed men paying attention to me, flirting or whatever. But generally speaking the men that usually made advances were…umm…men of dubious character. Perhaps the places I hung out were places that attracted a certain character of men, lol. The big difference today is that I have more confidence. So, I am more willing to approach men, that before now, I thought were out of my league. The funny thing is that most of these guys are just as afraid to approach me and not in any league, except maybe a softball league! I've never considered myself extraordinary in the "looks" department, just sorta average at best. And, despite the time I spend at the gym I thought the same about my body –fair to middling.
What I've learned is this…the more effort that I put into my insides the more satisfied I am that my outsides are good enough. Good enough to allow me an acceptable level of comfort when walking up to another guy and saying "hi, my name is Monty. You caught my attention and I wanted to introduce myself."
That's the real secret isn't it…the amount of effort that I spend on my insides should be equal to or greater than the effort I spend on my outsides.
